Tuesday, February 28, 2012
We spend a lot of time looking outside of ourselves for happiness. We might feel happiest when affected by alcohol or other mood changing substance. We might need our family or friends around us to feel happy or we might think that losing weight or becoming fit is the way to happiness. Neither of these is really the case.
Whilst these things may contribute to our happiness, our true happiness is within us and as we find ourselves, accept ourselves and embrace ourselves only then can we find true happiness that doesn’t rely on external forces to keep us happy.
This can be one of the most freeing thoughts of all self-discoveries. Once we learn this fundamental lesson, we determine how we react when things are not going well around us. Until that moment, things happening around us often create the responses and feeling of sadness or happiness that accompany them.
Many people think of happiness as positive emotions. We associate happiness with feelings and emotions can range from feeling contented to feeling pure joy. While to think of happiness being in terms of an emotional response is normal, happiness is something that transcends emotions.
We put a lot of unfair pressure on the people and situations in our lives when we expect them to be the sources of those positive emotions. Unless we are happy within ourselves, it’s likely our relationships will never live up to our expectations. They may add to our happiness, but they can never be the source of it. Henry Miller said, “I have no money, no resources and no hopes, but I am the happiest man alive.”
How do we find our personal happiness? Happiness is, as much about an attitude of mind as a response to it, so to find happiness we first need to change our attitudes. We cannot be happy all the time, but we can learn to put strategies in place from within ourselves to create inner happiness despite external circumstances.
Perspective is the creator of happiness and it may also be the destroyer of it. Training ourselves to remain positive and content is an important life skill. Once learned it will help us maintain healthy emotional responses to every situation we find ourselves facing. Alain-Rene Lasage once said, “I am happy and content because I think I am.” This is the state of understanding of self; we all need to aim at reaching.
Monday, February 27, 2012
If we have to come to grasp and make the most out of our time we have to think of it as an idea. It is a myth that binds all our reference points and it is the most and only valuable resource that is available to all. No one has really conquered time all of the time but the few that made the most out of it are richly rewarded.
When we say time management however, what it generally refers to is its better use so that productivity and efficiency are increased because today, to continuously be competitive whether in business or in personal affairs, time management is crucial.
Time management is making the most of our time so that we deal with efficiency the things that we do not want to do but have to, and be left with enough time to do the things that we enjoy.
We exist only in the present, the now. It has to be enjoyed to the fullest extent that we can. Maybe this is why it is called a present.
Failing to do those will find many of us having spent time and having done nothing much. Movement as we all know is not always being efficient. Yet everyday, movement is often mistaken to be progress when all one did was like sitting on a rocking horse moving back and forth and getting nowhere. It is often ironic that individuals who focus on the end results and not in being busy ends up in doing much and still have time enough for themselves.
Time management involves planning and sticking out to a planned course of action that is directed towards a specific goal. Time management is not having to do everything and being everyone to everybody. It is the realization of what are important and prioritizing things from those. It is the ability to say no and the ability to reject time stealers. Time management is delegating things when there is a need for delegation, deciding on things with dispatch when the need arises and developing the ability to spot potential problems before it can occur.
Having the ability or training to do that makes the now truly a present that only people who can manage the self as he relates to time can really enjoy.
Posted by Amys Winning Ways at 8:02 AM